In this episode, you will hear about..
[0:00] 10 day charting email challenge
[2:08] The full human experience vs. buffering.
[3:35] We often think that there should only be positive emotions.
[5:30] How do you buffer?
[8:11] Sitting with your emotions and how they show up.
[9:42] How to avoid discomfort.
[11:37] When the desire grows, it’s hard to resist it.
[13:27] What you buffer with
[16:00] Experiencing human emotion
[18:28] You don’t have to go through this alone
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Welcome to the med Ed Welch podcast, where physicians get empowered to take the next step in their wellness, personally, professionally, and financially. I’m your host, Dr. Ryan Stegink, a practicing general pediatrician and online entrepreneur.
Hello, everyone, and welcome to another episode of the MedEdWell Podcast. I’m so excited that you’re back. And that you’ve been sharing and engaging with these episodes. If you are new welcome. And if this is another episode that you are coming back, to listen and engage with, I want to encourage you to subscribe to leave a review and to share this with someone else that might benefit from this. I have heard from so many people about how this has made a difference about how me being vulnerable about some of these things that I’ve been through, has really impacted their lives. And so I just want to encourage you to consider to engage and to consider sharing, because this makes such a difference for physicians, and for others both inside and outside medicine. So today, we’re going to be talking about the full human experience versus buffering. Now, you might be asking, what is buffering. So as a part of my life coach training through the Life Coach School, one of the concepts that we learned about was called buffering where in order to not feel a particular emotion, that might be we perceive as negative and we try and go for a positive emotion. And it’s a matter of saying, I don’t want to feel this. So I’m going to go over here and do something else in order to try and feel something different. I’ll get some examples in a moment. But first, from my own life, I see this on a pretty regular basis. Because the underlying thought, least that I’m perceiving is that I want what I want when I want it. I want what I want when I want it for my kids. It’s summed up with no, I have young children. And yeah, it’s either a no, or maybe for the baby, it’s just a scream, you walked away, you left me in my enclosure of my playpen so that I can’t be free. And so we often think that there should only be positive emotions, that we should only feel these comfortable, or things that we think are positive, rather than really experiencing both the positive and the negative emotions that are part of life. We each want those positive things only. And we try to get it rather than experiencing pain, discomfort, grief, other things that we perceive as negative and actively try and avoid those things. And so as we seek to get away from these negative feelings, these negative emotions and move towards those positive emotions, we do things and have urges to get away from the negative. And that’s what is described as buffering. So today as we consider the fullness of the human experience, both positive and negative emotions, I want to cover three big points. We’re gonna talk about the ways that people buffer we’re gonna talk about how we’re assisting the buffering and the growing desires, the urge to move past, sitting with some of those emotions. And then third, we’re going to cover how allowing these urges, and experiencing these negative feelings allows us to really engage with and to experience the full breadth of human emotions and the human experience.
So first, I’m gonna cover some of the ways that people buffer well, more. So ways that I buffer and maybe ways that you can relate to, but I’m sure there’s other things that maybe are part of your experience that may be unique to you, or at least not part of mine previously. So a few of the emotions that I experienced 100 regular basis would be feeling tired, especially young children. Having been in medical training, many of you may be able to relate, maybe it’s right now that you are just feeling exhausted, for whatever reason. Maybe it’s feelings of boredom, or of stress. And so, rather than sitting with these emotions, sometimes I will eat a snack, or decide that I’m going to have some coffee, or I’m going to look at my phone, and in and of themselves, these things aren’t bad. But when I am trying to use them, in order to not feel tired, I will eat because I want to feel maybe more alert, maybe I want to feel this pleasure from eating a snack, whether it’s my kids goldfish, the Craisins that we otherwise will put on salads. It may not be that we keep ice cream in the house, we try not to but still have that as part of say, a celebration, birthdays or otherwise. But it’s about what am I trying to achieve by doing that? Am I eating because I’m truly having the sensation of hunger? Or is it because I’m bored, I’m tired, I’m stressed. Maybe I’m not wanting to be bored or to engage with some of the thoughts that I’m having some of the experience
of grief, of sadness of
just dealing with some of the hard things that each of us face that are out there in the world. And so rather than do that, maybe I’m just going to look at my phone and and check the sports. Or I’m going to check my email again, or my social media.
Because many times, there are things that I can learn from really sitting with these emotions, to really examine my thoughts to consider where I am, where I am, how that’s showing up for me, how I want to show up, and what I can learn from that situation.